I met somebody two weekends ago. I really liked him immediately. We spent the best part of about 4 hours talking mostly to each other. He asked me if he could walk me home. Having had far too many guys try to come home with me within hours of meeting them, and being pretty darned sick of it (what ever happened to waiting?!?!) I said no. We met again the following weekend, and again, spent pretty much the entire evening talking. He asked me if we could share a cab home. The conversation in that cab was probably the one of the best I've had in my life. You know when you just utterly strike sparks off the the other person, and you understand them perfectly, despite just having met them?
As I expected, he asked me if he could come up, just so we could continue talking. I let him come up, because I had a friend staying over and hence there was no chance for him to jump my bones. To his credit, he agreed to come up after finding out I had somebody staying over. He met my friend, gave him some pretty amazing career advice. The 3 of us ended up talking for a couple of hours. I later told my friend it was fortuitous he'd stayed over, because he would have never met this guy otherwise. My friend laughed and said, no that is not true, I'd probably have met him when the two of you got married. Of course, at that point, I was completely starry eyed and that comment made me super happy. I met him again yesterday, he was leaving to visit India and he'd agreed to take some stuff back for me. He picked me up in a cab, we had a crazy fun hour (I got to go to Wall Street where he works). He wanted me to come see him off at the airport, and I was so tempted, but I had work to do so I declined.
Today, I decided to look him up on facebook. I found him. He is married, with twin girls. I sat there in utter disbelief for 20 minutes. This is a guy with, from the looks of it, a lovely happy family. Why the hell would anybody mess with that?!
You think you can spot the sleazebags. This is, without a doubt, an intelligent, complex, insightful man. He really got me. I've dated many people I've been only mildly drawn to them but he is one of an incredibly tiny group of men I've felt this immediate strong attraction and mental connection with. My friend who met himw is no slouch is assessing people and he thought this was a completely stand-up guy, and strongly felt he was really good for me.
This guy gave utterly no indication that he was married. He does not seem like the guy who would cheat. Either of two possibilities might exist- he is having marital issues (which might explain why he is going off by himself to India now) or he is an utter sleazebag who just wanted to pretend like he is not married and have some fun with a girl, which seems utterly incongruous with his personality, but hey, what do I know?
I'm very disillusioned now. I would not bat an eyelid over somebody who came across as shallow, average person behaving like this, and god knows, there are legions of shallow, average scumbags on this planet, but this guy had me fooled completely. And the saddest part? I still like him.
As I expected, he asked me if he could come up, just so we could continue talking. I let him come up, because I had a friend staying over and hence there was no chance for him to jump my bones. To his credit, he agreed to come up after finding out I had somebody staying over. He met my friend, gave him some pretty amazing career advice. The 3 of us ended up talking for a couple of hours. I later told my friend it was fortuitous he'd stayed over, because he would have never met this guy otherwise. My friend laughed and said, no that is not true, I'd probably have met him when the two of you got married. Of course, at that point, I was completely starry eyed and that comment made me super happy. I met him again yesterday, he was leaving to visit India and he'd agreed to take some stuff back for me. He picked me up in a cab, we had a crazy fun hour (I got to go to Wall Street where he works). He wanted me to come see him off at the airport, and I was so tempted, but I had work to do so I declined.
Today, I decided to look him up on facebook. I found him. He is married, with twin girls. I sat there in utter disbelief for 20 minutes. This is a guy with, from the looks of it, a lovely happy family. Why the hell would anybody mess with that?!
You think you can spot the sleazebags. This is, without a doubt, an intelligent, complex, insightful man. He really got me. I've dated many people I've been only mildly drawn to them but he is one of an incredibly tiny group of men I've felt this immediate strong attraction and mental connection with. My friend who met himw is no slouch is assessing people and he thought this was a completely stand-up guy, and strongly felt he was really good for me.
This guy gave utterly no indication that he was married. He does not seem like the guy who would cheat. Either of two possibilities might exist- he is having marital issues (which might explain why he is going off by himself to India now) or he is an utter sleazebag who just wanted to pretend like he is not married and have some fun with a girl, which seems utterly incongruous with his personality, but hey, what do I know?
I'm very disillusioned now. I would not bat an eyelid over somebody who came across as shallow, average person behaving like this, and god knows, there are legions of shallow, average scumbags on this planet, but this guy had me fooled completely. And the saddest part? I still like him.
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