Curveballs!!

Hate them. I want to flop down on the floor and indulge in a good limb-flailing session. Here is the background- I'm a postdoc whose work situation was super stable because I had just gotten a 2 year fellowship (its a deal where your salary is funded by an external source, for two whole years). This gave me plenty of time to TTC. Now my boss just informed me that he is being 'courted' by NYU and wants to take me there with him. Its a great university and a pretty nice professional opportunity, but I want none of it. I'm happy in San Diego. I really dislike the idea of living in Manhattan- its cold, you get a little hole in the wall for an exorbitant amount of money, you have to go to laundromats to wash clothes, you walk everywhere because you have to give up your car- I've done all of this for 6 years already, and I was finished with it. And all of this is much harder to do if pregnant and alone.

If I don't go with him, I will most likely lose my fellowship. Then I have to job hunt again, and settling in a new lab is always stressful. There is one possible solution, and that has to do with timing- get pregnant ASAP and deliver by the time he is about to leave- then I can just pack up and go live with my parents in India for 2 years. This has always been my plan (because of violent opposition of my family to daycare in the start), but pulling it in a constrained time frame makes it all so much more stressful.

Don't know what to do, but I guess the number 1 thing is not to stress out. All will be well, I just need to adjust better to new realities.